I’m guessing you’re talking about the process of manifesting your desires, or using “the Law of Attraction.”
The principle to remember is that we always get what we’re feeling and focusing on. If we’re focusing on how wonderful life is and really feeling it, we get more of that. If we’re focusing on how bad we feel because we don’t have what we thought we wanted or can’t pay our bills, we get more of that.
So, let’s say you’ve been imagining how wonderful it feels to be successful in your work and having just the right people and resources show up at just the right time and you feel wonderful whenever you think about it. Then you see an unexpected bill and you’re plunged into angst, wondering how you’re going to pay it and why you, etc. So you’ve just told the universe that you want both—some success and some angst. And that’s what you’ll get more of: both….
Or, let’s say you’ve been visualizing that perfect home in the perfect neighborhood at the perfect price and lo! It’s now yours. Now you get to pack and move and mow the lawn and repair the gutters and clear away the leaves and it doesn’t feel so perfect. So you stop feeling wonderful, so now you stop attracting wonderful stuff!
The Buddha tells us that our thoughts make our experience. When he realized that all the years he’d spent depriving the body was just giving the body power, he relaxed against a tree and felt wonderful. When he realized that food would help sustain that feeling of wonderful, a farm-girl walked by and offered him his favorite food. What a great example! When we feel wonderful, we get whatever we know will feel more wonderful!
He also said “no thing ever fully satisfies.” The things of this world are limited, but you are limitless! How can you think that you’ll always be overjoyed by something that is limited? You can’t be! You must change and develop and evolve and the things around you can’t do that… so after a while you become dissatisfied and that feeling tells the universe you want more dissatisfaction (which most of us call “suffering”).
The trick is to see things that used to “make you” feel something other than wonderful and still feel wonderful. If, for example, you see an unexpected bill to pay, try being grateful for the opportunity to circulate more funds—there must be more coming in because now there’s more going out! Or if you’ve been being very successful at work and it appears the system or people you’ve been using has to change, try feeling wonderful that you have the opportunity to explore and create new ways to do things—instead of upset that you’ve got to do things differently.
The Universe gives us exactly what we’re calling forth. No more; no less. If we’re getting mixed results, we’re putting out mixed messages.
So there’s really only one discipline: Enjoy! Go with the flow instead of fighting upstream!