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Ruth L Miller is an eclectic scholar with degrees in many fields of science and the social sciences and is ordained as a New Thought minister - because she keeps on seeking answers to the fundamental questions that make it possible for the spiritual beings we call humanity to live well and in harmony on this planet for generations to come.


How does Resentment affect the body?

Whatever we think or feel becomes manifest in our bodies. You know how that is: when we’re joy-filled, we’re radiant, we’re healthy; we’re able to take on whatever we encounter, effortlessly. By contrast, when we’re in distress, the body is weak, the skin is pale, and we may not be able to even eat.

What we don’t always realize is that the experience is not only expressed in our bodies, but stored there. Massage therapists see this all the time: someone is quietly resting on their table and suddenly starts crying or even shouting when a particular place is released in the massage process. It’s also stored in our organs and glands—as a “program” for when and how to function.

Bruce Lipton’s Biology of Belief and Candace Pert’s Molecules of Emotion describe how this works. The cells have thousands of receptors that tell the cell what to do based on what chemical and electrical signals they’re receiving, and those receptors change as the number and intensity of a particular signal increases or decreases. This means that the cells of the body get “addicted” to stress or distress or joy and demand more of it!

The feeling of resentment or anger, or any form of stress, sends many signals to the cells telling them to shut down and get ready to fight, and if we maintain such feelings for a long period of time, the cells will literally act as if that’s their only job and stop doing the other kinds of things they would normally do.

Fortunately, we can turn that around. If we can find a way to release the feelings and replace them with a sense of peace or harmony—for even a short time every day—the cells will begin to revert back to normal functioning during that short time. Obviously, the more time we can spend in that harmonious state, the more cells can be restored, and the sooner we can experience full health. This is part of why, when people meditate, many physical conditions are improved. Positive prayer, as communion with the divine, works as well. So does taking regular walks, drives, or boat trips in beautiful places.


When I called some people ‘bozos’ who use their money to push people around (I believe this is mean and selfish behavior), I understood that I was judging and that’s not a good thing to do. So why does it feel so good?

In western empire culture, we’ve been trained to “feel good” when we’re “one up” on someone else. Our pleasure centers light up, a little extra adrenaline flows, etc. We think it’s a victory. (I’m remembering seeing Tiger Woods when he makes a difficult putt on the green: he looks and acts just like one of the guys on a sitcom who “one ups” a boss.)

But that’s because our wires were crossed in the training – kind of like people who get sexually stimulated when spanked or have to get angry before they can say “I love you.” It’s a conditioned response that isn’t “real” victory.

So, yes! It gets very confusing!

The way to know whether a thought or action is helpful or harmful is to see what it does in the world – or to you. What happens when someone “one ups” you? How does it feel? Is that something you want more of?

A huge part of our spiritual work in this culture is undoing the false beliefs and training we’ve been given. And this is one of them. Yes, it’s not okay for anyone to intentionally cause harm to anyone else. No, it’s not okay for anyone to judge anyone ELSE’s words or actions – “lest we be judged.” When we do or say something critical of another IT COMES BACK AROUND to us! Continue reading When I called some people ‘bozos’ who use their money to push people around (I believe this is mean and selfish behavior), I understood that I was judging and that’s not a good thing to do. So why does it feel so good?