I truly understand how frustrating it is when we seem to have “done everything right” and still don’t get the results we anticipate.
What I learned in my own experience–and have seen in dozens of peoples’ lives since–is that the current upsetting incident is simply the indicator of the actual “burden to be cast”, rather than the burden itself.
When we have an experience that seems to shatter our life, we are actually playing out a kind of script about how the world is that we set up years before–typically in our childhood. There’s a pattern that began way back then which is now showing itself in such a huge way that we can’t ignore it. In many cases, somewhere way back when, a child experienced someone very close to betraying them and deep inside they made up their mind that “the people closest to me betray my trust and abandon me.” In others, it’s more subtle: a parent put the child in the role of parent; or physical abuse led to a belief that the world is dangerous, a source of painful iniquities; or illness at a critical moment led to a belief that one was incapable of doing certain things… I’ve encountered dozens.
You may know immediately who, what, where, and when as you read that.
Or you may not. If not, take a while to consider the things you remember–or don’t–about your parents and siblings in your first years. Most likely some pretty big event or series of events happened and you’ve been adapting around it most of your life–as friends in school, or coworkers, or teachers or bosses played out their roles in that pattern.
What we need to do, then, is not just release the current (or most recent) triggering situation, but find the trigger event and release that–along with all the others over the years that reinforced it.
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