I truly understand how frustrating it is when we seem to have “done everything right” and still don’t get the results we anticipate.
What I learned in my own experience–and have seen in dozens of peoples’ lives since–is that the current upsetting incident is simply the indicator of the actual “burden to be cast”, rather than the burden itself.
When we have an experience that seems to shatter our life, we are actually playing out a kind of script about how the world is that we set up years before–typically in our childhood. There’s a pattern that began way back then which is now showing itself in such a huge way that we can’t ignore it. In many cases, somewhere way back when, a child experienced someone very close to betraying them and deep inside they made up their mind that “the people closest to me betray my trust and abandon me.” In others, it’s more subtle: a parent put the child in the role of parent; or physical abuse led to a belief that the world is dangerous, a source of painful iniquities; or illness at a critical moment led to a belief that one was incapable of doing certain things… I’ve encountered dozens.
You may know immediately who, what, where, and when as you read that.
Or you may not. If not, take a while to consider the things you remember–or don’t–about your parents and siblings in your first years. Most likely some pretty big event or series of events happened and you’ve been adapting around it most of your life–as friends in school, or coworkers, or teachers or bosses played out their roles in that pattern.
What we need to do, then, is not just release the current (or most recent) triggering situation, but find the trigger event and release that–along with all the others over the years that reinforced it.
In Shinn’s terms from The Game of Life and How to Play It, we “cast the burden” of those events along with the decision we made about ourselves and our world at that time.
Then, and this is really important, we turn away from all of that–we place them in the light of love and turn our attention to the way that Good is working in our life today– beginning to lead us into our most heavenly possible life. We focus on every little bit of heaven we can find in every moment of every day, knowing that it’s a demonstration of the heavenly life that is unfolding through us, for us, and around us.
Until one day we can’t seem to find the heavenly bits, because the old pattern has been triggered again… and then we do the whole releasing process again, but it’s so much easier and faster than last time! And we go thru the cycle 2 or 3 more times, releasing the old pattern of beliefs and replacing them with a new one, based on the power of Good in our lives and our world. We go through it feeling frustrated that we have to, but when we think about it we realize that each time is less effort, less intensity, and less time than the last.
And then one day, we realize that we’ve heard about someone else experiencing that kind of event, but it hasn’t been going on in our lives… so then we do the process for them and us, opening the way for healing for both of us at the same time… until it’s no longer in our world and, (here’s the best part!) we’ve accomplished a huge part of what we came to this life to do.